I have an online journal, a secret blog, that my family does not know about. I am not mean and I don’t talk trash or belittle them (much). I simply use it as my place to process my thoughts and feelings. It is useful for me to have my feelings validated by others or to be told I’m completely out in left field. It is my place in the world where I am free to say the things that I am feeling, that I would NEVER say in real life. I would never tell my children that I am tired of being the mom because it would hurt their feelings and they would not know how to process that information. It isn’t that I don’t love my children or want them around me, it’s just that I am mom 24/7, 365. I don’t get a day off. I don’t get a night off. I don’t get a minute off and sometimes, I would really just like to soak in a hot bubble bath for 25 minutes with peace and quiet and no interruption. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t resent my children or husband, I just wish I could shut it off sometimes when I’m overwhelmed.
Then, take the response you got from your instructor:
You are absolutely correct in what you are doing. In fact, you are carrying on a tradition that is very old. I remember my mother, and my Irish grandmother, and my Scottish grandmother would all hang out their laundry and then go over to the neighbor’s fence to ‘chat for a bit’. It was their ‘sanity clause’, which said they needed to take a break before they went nuts. You are fulfilling the same need we all have in a healthy and creative way. Whatever you do, don’t stop! It is what is referred to as a ‘sacred space’.
I think as we study personality, personality traits and how we fulfill our needs, it is good to come back to this point that Stella has made to all of us. Thanks for sharing this with us and opening our eyes to the fact that the internet can be a source of healing.
Lazy blogging at its finest. Night all.
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